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Saturday, May 16th, 2009
7:39 pm
The last of the wedding!
It was a great reception. Everything went better than planned and we all had a great time. For those of you interested the awesome photographer/friend made us an awesome DVD that plays all the pics to music. For those of you seeing the pics you can do that at folkphoto.com/troyandclarence. They are not the same as the DVD but some are still cool.
Thursday, May 7th, 2009
4:45 pm
Still kind of odd
It is hard for me to believe. I know this is silly and such but in just 48 hours we are making a huge commitment. A month ago to the day tomorrow we stood in Connecticut telling the justice of the peace that we were in fact in love and wanted to be married and we were. But now we have to do it in front of friends and family. I am truly blessed to have this man in my life but it is still so scary! I never believed in my lifetime I would not only find a man who would ask me to marry him but that it would be legal and he would actually be the one who asked. When we first met hell he even said "I don't know that I can give you monogamy and I am not a person who looks too far in the future." I am the most nervous and luckiest man alive. It is kind of like winning the lottery and being afraid to go pick it up because you think it might be a trick to arrest you on a traffic warrant.
Sunday, April 19th, 2009
7:53 am
posting vs not posting
I find myself forgetting to post or deciding not to post here. I feel as though the community I involve myself in fading to nothing. Today after a long break I read back some and realize how important a few people on my friends list are to me. There are some that I don't miss though. I like these people and all but am rarely interested in things they have to say. In light of that I have decided to try again and reduce my friends list in the process. In light of that I made this post today to ask who feels that way about me. If you wish to remain on my list let me know I plan to begin anew by sharing some real personal information and quite frankly am going to avoid the political here and save it for other venues.
Saturday, March 28th, 2009
1:29 pm
The Wedding
OK we have

Whore Derves
Paper Plates
Plastic Champagne Glasses
Invites in the mail
Gifts for attendants

We need

Finish selecting photos for montage
Write Vows
Put Music together

We will be driving up to CT a week from today to spend two days with one friend in Jersey and another in CT. On the 5th we will be married by a JOP and then home.

On the 9th of May the big ass reception

Woo Hoo 15 years in the making and finally pulled this together!!!!
Wednesday, March 18th, 2009
7:42 pm
Evidence of my kid's visit
Left Calf

Left shoulder

Tuesday, February 24th, 2009
8:17 am
Troubled times, Pot and Illegals


Assemblyman Tom Ammiano introduced a bill on Monday that he considers nothing more than a bit of fiscal common sense, says the SF Weekly who explains that the  Marijuana Control, Regulation, and Education Act would:Make the Transportation, Possession, sale and use of Marijuana legal.

I am totally in support of this for many reasons. The first reason I support this bill is that I believe in freedom of choice and to use or not use pot is a personal choice. Let's say that the people who claim pot is a gateway drug are correct. Wouldn't you agree that beer is a gateway drink to hard liquor?  that bingo is a gateway to slot machines? and if you really wanna be a synic then cars and Big Macs are a gateway to suicide?

Pot is California's biggest crop! It is estimated to generate $14 billion a year and the taxes from the sale of pot could net the state over a billion per year in revenue.


I don't have details on the revenue that prostitution generates for any given state however I am willing to bet it is a lot of money. If that were taxed imagine what that would do to the deficit faced by many states. Prostitution, although disputed is a victimless crime in my eyes. Why is it wrong if everyone involved are conscenting adults? Again I think it is freedom of choice and the govt had ought to stay out of it! Also understand that prostitutes would be by laws that can't be enforced now. If a prostitute is beaten and raped she or he has no recourse at this time. If it were legal however, they would have no fear of reporting these crimes and it might make perps think twice before doing that. Legalizing it would also come with mandated licensing which would have to include medical exams on a regular basis which many are not getting now and spreading disease.


Plain and simple... Get them the hell out of our country. I have no problem with people coming here from another country. What I have an issue with is them coming here illegally and using our health care, food stamp, cash aid, and education systems without the burden of the same taxes you and I pay. If they were legal they could demand a decent wage as well which would force employers to pay them more than the pittence they now get. It would also create a system in which they could be tracked as far as illegal activity so when they steal or murder someone it is easier to find them unlike it currently stands where we have no way to identify them.

I think that a bail out is not the answer.

We via our new president have put the country at great financial risk by doing all these bailouts. I feel like if BofA for instance made loans to people that could not afford it then that is their problem let them take the fall, they decided to take the risk. Ford, GM and Chrysler... We have been bailing them out for years. If they made a quality product at a reasonable price like any business has to do that makes a product or provides a service then they would not be having a problem. If they were to fall what would happen? I am willing to bet that foreign sales would go up for a time until a company comes along that is from this country and starts building a quality product at a reasonable price and it will take off like crazy!!!

The housing market

Not all but many of the people that are having their homes forclosed on brought it on themselves. They simply bought more house than they could afford even at the time they bought it thinking things would change. I will clearly tell you if we both lost our jobs tomorrow we would lose everything probably if we did not find other jobs soon. There are lots of people in that situation who I do feel sorry for but that is life and you have to take the knocks sometimes. House prices have not really fallen either. You may think so by looking at the news or talking to a realtor. The fact is that the prices were up artificially for years and eventually they would have to and did reset themselves to a reasonable price.

The second amendment.

I am a gun owner and always will be. I believe that not only is it our right to carry a weapon but to use that weapon if we are threatened. I assure you that if you broke into my house tonight that you would leave with at least one hole more than you came in the door with and possibly in a body bag. The joy of hurting someone is not what I get out of it. I will have saved my family from harm, kept my possessions and most of all sent a clear message to future thieves that that shit don't fly in this house. I also believe that we should have weapons in our homes (safely locked from our children before you get on that tangent). It is a little known fact that a big part of the reason for saying we had the right to bear arms was so that we could protect ourselves from the government.

I am a very serious constitutionalist and I believe that all the laws created and that are not part of the constitution need to be repealed, rethought and replaced with simple straight forward laws that reflect that piece of paper and it's simple bill of rights.

I just think the answers are right in front of us and we are not seeing them. We are instead depending on government to handle it all and do the thinking for us. I think they have proven themselves to not be capable of these choices and we need to take our rights, our voting power, and our control of this country back and remind them who we are, what we stand for, and we are not taking any more bullshit!!!!

Saturday, February 14th, 2009
12:29 am
Three Day Weekends I raise my glass to you!!!
New sofa and loveseat      CHECK
Bar installed and stocked  CHECK
Table and chairs                CHECK
Xbox and Wii                     CHECK
New Plasma TV                ON ORDER

Yeee Haw!!! I love the new room

Had the carpets all cleaned through the whole house today too. What am I doing this weekend? Playing Rock Band with my baby and friends online, Sitting on my ass, Sleeping in and going to a party Saturday night to honor Rock Band, Bacon wrapped meats and decadent deserts!!

Wishing you all as great a weekend as I am having.
Tuesday, February 10th, 2009
7:11 pm
Sunday night we watched "Pecker" by John Waters. It was great for those of you that are JW fans
Saturday, February 7th, 2009
9:00 pm
The Bucket List. Place an X by all the things you've done and remove the X from the ones you have not, then send it to your friends (including me).

Things you have done during your lifetime:
(X) Gone on a blind date
(X ) Skipped school
(X) Watched someone die
(X) Been to Canada
(X) Been to Mexico
(X) Been to Florida
()Jumped off a cliff (although I was asked to many times)
() Bungee jump
(X)Been to Hawaii
(X) Been on a plane
() Flown a plane
(X) Been on a helicopter
(X) Been lost
(X) Gone to Washington, DC
(X) Swam in the ocean
(X) Cried yourself to sleep-
(X) Played cops and robbers
() Recently colored with crayons
(X) Sang Karaoke
() Paid for a meal with coins only
() Been to the top of the St. Louis Arch
(X) been to New York City at Xmas time
(X) Done something you told yourself you wouldn't.
(X) Made prank phone calls
(X) Been down Bourbon Street in New Orleans
(X) Laughed until some kind of beverage came out of your nose & elsewhere
(X) Caught a snowflake on your tongue
(X) Danced in the rain-naked
(X) Written a letter to Santa Claus
(X) Been kissed under the mistletoe
(X) Watched the sunrise with someone
(X) Blown bubbles
() Gone ice-skating
(X) Gone to the movies
() Been deep sea fishing
(X) Driven across the United States
(X) Been in a hot air balloon
() Been sky diving
(X) Gone snowmobiling
() Lived in more than one country
(X) Lay down outside at night and admired the stars while listening to the truck radio in the desert (actually just in the country by the river)
(X) Seen a falling star and made a wish
(X) Enjoyed the beauty of Old Faithful Geyser
() Been on a cruise
(X) Traveled by train
(X) Traveled by motorcycle
(X) Been horse back riding
(X) Ridden on a San Francisco CABLE CAR
(X) Been to Disney World (only if disney land counts)
(X) Truly believe in the power of prayer (depends on your definition of prayer)
() Been in a rain forest
(X) Seen whales in the ocean
(X) Been to Niagara Falls
(X) Ridden on an elephant
() Swam with dolphins
() Been to the Olympics
() Walked on the Great Wall of China
() Saw and heard a glacier calf
() Been spinnaker flying
(X) Been water-skiing
() Been snow-skiing
() Been to Westminster Abbey
() Been to the Louvre
() Swam in the Mediterranean
(X) Been to a Major League Baseball game
() Been to a National Football League game!
(X) Ever been skinny-dipping
(X) Laugh so hard you cry
() Follow a map for treasure
(X) Drive a dune buggy
(X) Get lost in East L.A. after dark
Saturday, January 31st, 2009
7:32 am
OK it is official I am licensed by the feds and SC to carry little darlings to educational destinations. Unfortunately I did not get the endorsement that allows me to slap the shits around when they need it.
Thursday, January 29th, 2009
7:03 pm
Plans wrecked again... Litterally

I went this am to take my school bus test after a delay and I was informed that the student ahead of me had hit a curb and blew out the tire and caused some other damage. So back at it tomorrow am to try again.

Off to bowling night
6:52 pm
Book Meme
1) Bold those you have read.

2) Italicize those you intend to read.

3) Underline the books you LOVE.

4) Reprint this list in your own LJ so we can try and track down these people who've only read six and push books upon them.

1. Pride and Prejudice – Jane Austen

2. The Lord of the Rings – J.R.R. Tolkien

3. Jane Eyre – Charlotte Bronte

4. The Harry Potter series – JK Rowling

5. To Kill a Mockingbird – Harper Lee

6. The Bible

7. Wuthering Heights – Emily Bronte

8. Nineteen Eighty Four – George Orwell

9. His Dark Materials – Philip Pullman

10. Great Expectations – Charles Dickens

11. Little Women – Louisa M Alcott

12. Tess of the D'Urbervilles – Thomas Hardy

13. Catch 22 – Joseph Heller

14. The Complete Works of Shakespeare

16. The Hobbit – J.R.R. Tolkien

17. Birdsong – Sebastian Faulks

18. A Catcher in the Rye – JD Salinger

19. The Time Traveller's Wife – Audrey Niffenegger

20. Middlemarch – George Eliot

21. Gone With The Wind – Margaret Mitchell

22. The Great Gatsby – F Scott Fitzgerald

23. Bleak House – Charles Dickens

24. War and Peace – Leo Tolstoy

25. The Hitch Hiker's Guide to the Galaxy – Douglas Adams

26. Brideshead Revisited – Evelyn Waugh

27. Crime and Punishment – Fyodor Dostoyevsky

28. The Grapes of Wrath – John Steinbeck

29. Alice in Wonderland – Lewis Carroll

30. The Wind in the Willows – Kenneth Grahame

31. Anna Karenina – Leo Tolstoy

32. David Copperfield – Charles Dickens

33. The Chronicles of Narnia – CS Lewis

34. Emma – Jane Austen

35. Persuasion – Jane Austen

36. The Lion, The Witch and The Wardrobe – C.S. Lewis

37. The Kite Runner – Khaled Hosseini

38. Captain Corelli's Mandolin – Louis De Bernieres

39. Memoirs of a Geisha – Arthur Golden

40. Winnie the Pooh – A.A. Milne

41. Animal Farm – George Orwell

42. The Da Vinci Code – Dan Brown

43. One Hundred Years of Solitude – Gabriel Garcia Marquez

44. A Prayer for Owen Meaney-- John Irving

45. The Woman in White – Wilkie Collins

46. Anne of Green Gables – LMMontgomery

47. Far From The Madding Crowd – Thomas Hardy

48. The Handmaid's Tale – Margaret Atwood

49. Lord of the Flies – William Golding

50. Atonement – Ian McEwan

51. Life of Pi – Yann Martel

52. Dune – Frank Herbert (the original set - not the stuff by his son)

53. Cold Comfort Farm – Stella Gibbons

54. Sense and Sensibility – Jane Austen

55. A Suitable Boy – Vikram Seth

56. The Shadow of the Wind – Carlos Ruiz Zafon

57. A Tale Of Two Cities – Charles Dickens

58. Brave New World – Aldous Huxley

59. The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time -- Mark Haddon

60. Love In The Time Of Cholera – Gabriel Garcia Marquez

61. Of Mice and Men – John Steinbeck

62. Lolita – Vladimir Nabokov

63. The Secret History – Donna Tartt

64. The Lovely Bones – Alice Sebold

65. Count of Monte Cristo – Alexandre Dumas

66. On The Road – Jack Kerouac

67. Jude the Obscure – Thomas Hardy

68. Bridget Jones' Diary – Helen Fielding

69. Midnight's Children – Salman Rushdie

70. Moby Dick – Herman Melville

71. Oliver Twist – Charles Dickens

72. Dracula – Bram Stoker

73. The Secret Garden – Frances Hodgson Burnett

74. Notes From A Small Island – Bill Bryson

75. Ulysses – James Joyce

76. The Bell Jar – Sylvia Plath

77. Swallows and Amazons – Arthur Ransome

78. Germinal – Emile

79. Vanity Fair – William Makepeace Thackeray

80. Possession – A.S. Byatt

81. A Christmas Carol – Charles Dickens

82. Cloud Atlas – David Mitchell

83. The Color Purple – Alice Walker

84. The Remains of the Day – Kazuo Ishiguro

85. Madame Bovary – Gustave Flaubert

86. A Fine Balance – Rohinton Mistry

87. Charlotte's Web – E.B. White

88. The Five People You Meet In Heaven – Mitch Albom

89. Adventures of Sherlock Holmes – Sir Arthur Conan Doyle

90. The Faraway Tree Collection –Enid Blyton

91. Heart of Darkness – Joseph Conrad

92. The Little Prince (Le Petit Prince) – Antoine De Saint-Exupery

93. The Wasp Factory – Iain Banks

94. Watership Down – Richard Adams

95. A Confederacy of Dunces – John Kennedy Toole

96. A Town Like Alice – Nevil Shute

97. The Three Musketeers – Alexandre Dumas

98. Hamlet – William Shakespeare

99. Charlie and the Chocolate Factory – Roald Dahl

100. Les Miserables – Victor Hugo

Tuesday, January 27th, 2009
1:12 pm
the day off
today I am off waiting for my final test at dmv tomorrow at 9. Started doing a few projects around the house like finally hanging the shelf above the bed, putting up the lights above the bar and cleared the space for the new furniture which should be here next week.
Friday, January 23rd, 2009
9:16 pm
Thursday, January 22nd, 2009
2:48 pm
Update on the move
Don't get me wrong I love Charleston and really would love to stay here. Clarence feels the same about the move back to Atlanta really. The catch is that he could make some good career moves by going back to Atlanta.

Yesterday he heard about the job finally and it looks like they have decided not to fill the position after all. I am jazzed about being able to stay here at least a bit longer however I do feel bad for him. He really wanted this.

It is a perfect universe though and everything is just as it should be.

We are probably going to get a condo here. We don't need this much space now that mom and the kids are all gone. I guess there is a dark lining in my silver cloud today

Current Mood: frustrated
Tuesday, January 20th, 2009
7:25 am
That Damn Poodle
Finally, a month after Mom moved everything lined up. In order for her to have her dog at the new apartment some hoops had to be jumped through. Her Doctor (the shrink) had to sign a letter saying that she needed the dog to keep her stable mentally which is true. I had to pay for rabies shot (even though the dog stays inside and has no teeth). And they wanted a 300 pet deposit which is non refundable. She has picked up the pee and poop producing dryer lint and once again they are reunited and the Mama is happy.

Now we will have to see if the carpet cleaner will make me happy too.
Monday, January 19th, 2009
11:21 am
long rant and a few raves thrown in.
I know nobody reads my posts especially when I go on like this. I have to express it somehow though and my blog is where I choose to do it.

I am proud of who I am. I am honest, trustworthy, reliable and I also know that I have made mistakes in my life which I am fine with because I learned from them.

I look around and I see that things are better in many ways in my personal life as well as in the world around me. I also see areas in both arenas that could be improved. I am not the end all beat all nor am I stupid and so ignorant that I can't remove myself from a situation and look at the other side. So in light of that I am gonna start in.

#1 The ministers being chosen for the inauguration.

What people don't get is that we ALL have the right to freedom of speech. If we take it away from nasty christian hate mongering ministers then we have to take away from the gays. If we take it from white supremacy dumbasses then we have to take it from the blacks. That preacher preaches against gays. That is his belief and right or wrong it is indeed his belief. We can disagree (and obviously I do), but we cant tell him not to express himself. Obama's campaign chose him and although I wish they would have chosen another that is their right. If we refused to let anyone give the invocation that does not agree with black rights, women rights, gay rights, and all the other sub groups out there then there would probably be nobody left to do it. I somehow doubt he is going to get up there and say a prayer that says gays are bad.

#2 I am quite happy that Obama chose to include gays in any part of the acceptance speech, inauguration, and the rest of his campaign. That is a step further than any other president has EVER done including Bill Clinton.

#3 There is a list of goals for this president no doubt! And gay rights are important to me personally on many levels. But with a war and a recession that the former president and congress and senate got us into how high on the list do you think those things really are. I would rather maintain the status quo on the gay issues and fix our government, end the war, and fix the economy than have the right to marry even. It is all about setting priorities and quite frankly I think that puts marriage low on the list for me. Don't get me wrong it is very important to me I would love to have my marriage be recognized legally but if I have to wait a bit so that there is a country to recognize it then so be it.

#4 I hear everyone complaining about things like HBO not airing the episcopal priest's invocation. Instead of whining write to HBO and say I am canceling my subscription and state why! And encourage your friends and family to do the same.
Vote with your dollars people. Companies like Abercrombie and Fitch cater to gays. Why, Because they know their market. Show the other companies around the world what their market is too.

There is a way to win these wars but we are going to lose a battle or two along the way. Keep fighting but fight hard and true. Protest!, Cancel subscriptions, quit buying certain products, put your partners pic on your desk and recruit someone to do the same. We can win! Go see movies like milk and take your straight friends and family so they understand the struggle we go through. Support positive influences too. Even if you dont have time buy that movie ticket and give it to someone else. Start using products from companies that fit into your frame of thinking and not from those that don't. Refuse to sit at the back of the bus but don't shoot the bus driver cuz he is just doing his job.
Sunday, January 11th, 2009
3:26 pm
The week in review
Not much of a big week really. I went friday for my pee test and physical and I start the new job Monday. Every one of my friends seem to find the fact that I am going to be delivering school children to and from school daily anywhere from slightly amusing to full on laughable.

Mom is doing real well in her own apartment now if she would just come get this damn dog!!!

last night we went to this dive bar/wing place to celebrate a friends birthday and had a good time.

That is about it!
Saturday, January 10th, 2009
7:37 pm
Wednesday, January 7th, 2009
8:41 am
Hi ho Hi ho
It seems I have a new job. Due to the economy getting worse and wanting to finally put some more money in the bank I decided on Christmas that like it or not I had to go back to work. Clarence for some time now has liked me being home and such but the practicality of our lifestyle has set in and I went for it.

All signs point to yes as far as me driving bus for the local school district. The pay is good and the benefits are good aside from their health plan which I will not be using due to the fact that C's health insurance is awesome and covers me already.

Current Mood: accomplished
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